You’re probably right, and like most things in life, getting to the facts sooner rather than later, while sometimes painful, is better in the long run. While Loris may be an apt symbol, the last straw, Loris wasn’t the cause of the deteriorating relationship.

And neither were you, nor were you responsible for Loris’s unfortunate demise. You were twelve, and unfortunately your parents weren’t in a place where they could give you the comforting you needed.